The little things are what glue us back together time and time again. We need them to survive. We need people to remember our favorite color or our favorite activity that passes time because it is what keeps us going. It matters when your friend remembers the smallest detail of a conversation you had last week. Or when we receive that kind smile from someone unknown or a hug from a loved one; it makes us happy, causing our serotonin levels to soar. Virginia Satir, a legendary therapist, once said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” In this society, barely anyone wants to let themselves feel let alone hug someone. Though it may be healthy, it doesn’t truly mean that we will feel inclined to do it. Maybe it’s the little things that matter more than meeting the goal of four hugs a day, maybe it is the little things that aid in our survival.
When my friend remembers what I told them about my plans for tomorrow, or how difficult my homework was or even something small I might’ve mentioned in passing, I light up. Because they remembered. It takes energy to remember, which is why it holds significance. And if I were to smile at a stranger, maybe they are having a bad day and I just made it a little bit better. Whether it is the act of remembering or the attempts of being a good person, the little things hold some weight. The little things vary to a simple smile or a quick hug, someone who dries your tears, a compliment about your outfit or even a little surprise (like a cookie or cup of coffee). The point is to bring one joy.
For me, the most reliable activity I know I’ll always go back to is reading. Personally, I love immersing myself in books. For others it may be painting, video games or treating themselves to coffee everyday. It is especially important to have these activities in your back pocket specifically during late fall and early winter. The little things can also be things that you do for yourself, either to feel happy or make life a bit easier. Like putting a K-cup in the Keurig the night before so you can easily turn it on in the morning. Or maybe you wanted to stress a little less in the morning, deciding to lay your outfit out the night prior. Even treating yourself to a new outfit to make yourself feel pretty. Every action and thought matters when it comes to the little things.
Granted, I can’t help but wonder why people admire the small things. Maybe it’s because it makes them feel seen in some way. We all want to be seen, at least I think so. These gestures, or moments, are more valuable than extravagant gifts. I’d rather someone remember the little details about me rather than buy me a new piece of jewelry. Although a ring might be nice, too. The little moments connect us to others, it ties us together, intertwining two lives. Since I remembered an acquaintance’s birthday, it makes them feel like they matter. Which they do.
To put it in a few words, the little things carry meaning. Whether it be something you do for yourself or for another, it won’t fail to go unnoticed. I like to keep in mind that other people make mistakes and have bad days, too. I think it’s beautiful that I can possibly make someone’s or even my own day a bit better, a little brighter.
