Who do we love after Valentine’s Day?


Self love

Barbara Rucci

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, but the timeless ideals we express with pre-packaged chocolates and red roses continue throughout the year. Rather than focusing on relationships with other people, University students should take a moment and evaluate the relationship they have with themselves. In the midst of another new semester, adjusting back to scheduled courses and work, and trying to remain organized, it can be difficult for University students to remember to take care of their own selves.

According to an article from Psychology Today, self-love is not rooted solely in emotions, but also requires intentional practice and regular routine. You can’t simply throw on a face mask; you have to carve out time dedicated to yourself. It also means learning to transform negative thoughts into positive ones, which is much easier said than done.

Actively taking care of mental health should be a top priority when practicing self-love. According to Medical News Today, the enemy of self-love is perfectionism, and perfectionists are more prone to anxiety and depression. They possess a consistent and repetitive “inner-bully” that repeats the idea that they are not good enough and hyper-analyzes all of their mistakes.

There is no doubt many University students suffer from perfectionism and self-doubt while feeling the need to overwork themselves. A way to cultivate self-love is to form habits that calm the mind. When the mind is in a healthy state, the rest of the body will follow suit.

Acknowledging the positive actions and thoughts, even the small ones, are important to your mental health. “Any small victories you give yourself is good. Even applauding yourself for drinking enough water is a way to address a small victory,” said Meaghan Granger, a junior at the University.

You should also be conscious of how much of your time is being spent on yourself. “If you do not have time to do things for you, that will influence your mental health,” said Annie Pardo, a University junior. This can include unplugging from electronics for certain amounts of time. Pardo continued, “Not making yourself accessible, shutting off your phone, and logging off of social media are useful ways to quiet your mind and practice self-love.”

A few methods of self-love include practicing organization, speaking with a therapist, prioritizing time, and meditating. You must take actions that will mentally benefit you the most.

Self-love is the key to cultivating growth for a future in which University students can walk confidently.